Triangulation

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December 21th 2023 - Word count: 267

In today’s short publication we’ll discuss one of the manipulators most effective tactic in his or her arsenal “TRIANGULATION”

Triangulation is a devious and effective tactic in a manipulator’s arsenal.

The manipulator creates a triangle between you, him or her, and some third person outside of your relationship.

It is intended to make you feel insecure about the relationship, and therefore more eager to please the manipulator in order to keep him or her around. The manipulator will figuratively (or literally) bring another man or woman into the relationship in some way.
They might talk casually -- and frequently -- about an old flame, a coworker or someone they bump into regularly on their morning coffee run. Or they might obviously flirt with someone in front of you. Their interest in the other person creates insecurity. If they make subtle unfavorable comparisons between you and the outside person, which they're apt to do, that makes it much worse.

It is not uncommon for the manipulator to be grooming the other person as his or her next target, while conveniently using that person to devalue and manipulate you at the same time. For example, the manipulator might flirt with another woman in front of you so he can build his relationship with her while causing you to behave jealously, which can then be used as the reason to end your relationship. In a healthy relationship, you will know where you stand with your partner. A manipulator creates an ongoing sense of uncertainly